9 Scenarios Where You Need To Be Brutally Honest

Being brutally honest isn’t easy. If you see someone you love making a mistake, or putting themselves in harm’s way, you have to speak up.

There are times when it is appropriate to be brutally honest, and then others when honesty could have the fallout of a meteor. Sometimes to be a good friend, wife, husband, or even parent, you need to use a little “tough love” honesty to help someone. Here are some times when you should be brutally honest.

# Someone has something in their teeth

When you see that someone is going to make a fool out of themselves by having food in their teeth, lipstick on their teeth, toilet paper stuck to their shoes, or their skirt tucked into their underwear – whether you know them or not – you have an obligation to be brutally honest with them, period.

# Your girlfriend is wearing something see-through or that makes her look like a clown

If you are going out with your friend *or even your girlfriend* and she comes to the door with a white shirt you can see right through, or jeans that have a hole in the wrong place, then you have to warn her.

If she still chooses to wear it, that is on her. But, always err on the side that she doesn’t know about it, and be brutally honest.

# You know that your friend is being dumped but they don’t yet

It is much easier to make a story up about why he or she didn’t call back. But, if it is looking painfully obvious that your friend is being dumped, then you have to be a good friend by telling them that their relationship is over, or that the other person isn’t into them.

That is what friends do. Continuing to tell them a fairytale won’t make it any easier when they find out the truth.

# You think that your friend is in an abusive relationship

If you think that your friend is with a guy or girl who is really abusive, then you should be brutally honest.

Typically, we don’t like to get involved in our friend’s relationships, but if you notice that something is really wrong, whether it is emotional or physical abuse, then you have to say something.

There is a good possibility that they may shoot the messenger, but sometimes being a good friend means that you have to have think skin and do what’s right anyway.

# Someone is about to do something really stupid that can be life altering

If someone is going to get behind the wheel of a car drunk, go tell their boss to f*ck off because they had a bad day, or do something that could be potentially life-altering, you have to be brutally honest.

No friend sits by to watch a train wreck without trying to grab the steering wheel or brakes.

# You don’t love someone who loves you back

If you are in a relationship and your feelings have changed, it can be heartbreaking. If you don’t love someone, however, it isn’t fair to not be honest with them.

Sometimes you have to be brutally honest and stop beating around the bush. Saying “I don’t love you” is one of the hardest things to say and to hear, but not knowing and just playing along is humiliating and will hurt them more in the long run.

# You don’t think that someone getting married is a good idea

If anyone here can show just cause why these two should not be united in holy matrimony… if you have just cause, you have the responsibility to let the person know.

If you have a secret, know something that could ruin their relationship, or just think in your heart that it is a mistake, you have to risk not being invited and voice your brutally honest opinion.

# You suspect someone has a drinking or drug problem

Nothing is worse than watching someone drink or drug themselves to death. Besides, no one trying to stop someone from killing themselves with drugs and alcohol is torture.

If you think that your friend has taken the partying lifestyle to a whole new and crazy level, you have to be brutally honest and say something before something bad happens.

# You saw someone cheating

If you witnessed someone cheating on your friend, then you have to tell them. The guide to being brutally honest is to ask yourself, “If someone knew what I knew about them, would I want them to tell me?”

Cheating is not only something that can embarrass someone, it can actually harm their health and ruin their life. It is your responsibility to call out a cheater by telling the truth no matter how much it hurts.