9 Signs You Are Emotionally Cheating On Your Partner

From time to time, we need a certain amount of emotional understanding that we don’t seem to get from our partner. Have you ever been in that type of situation? If you have, you might have wondered about the line between emotional cheating vs friendship. Is it blurrier than you originally thought?

Perhaps you feel like your partner simply doesn’t understand a situation you’re in. Maybe they’re distracted with a problem of their own, and you feel like your own needs are ignored. It happens. But how you deal with this situation is key in terms of whether your relationship will survive the turmoil or not.

To help you figure out where you may be on the emotional cheating vs friendship spectrum, let’s check out a few signs. If you can agree with several of these, you need to stop and think about your actions.

# You meet up with them or call them at odd times

There are certain times of the day or night that are relationship times. For instance, evening times are usually reserved for spending time with your partner.

If you meet up with this person or contact them late in the evening, in the middle of the night, or when you’re supposed to be with your partner, that’s a red flag.

# You share emotional stories and secrets

If you find yourself sharing your emotional baggage or secrets with this other person, you need to ask yourself whether you’ve crossed a line.

There are certain things that you should never talk to someone else about. For instance, personal issues with your partner, or secrets that the two of you share. If you disclose these, ask yourself what you’re doing and why.

# You can’t wait to see them

Do you get butterflies when you know you’re going to be meeting up with this person? Why is that? If you’re just friends, you shouldn’t really be feeling this excited!

Sure, we all have friends who are the life and soul of the party and they make us feel super-happy when we’re around them, but they don’t tend to make you feel nervous and excited beforehand.

# You plan things to do with them

If you’re spending more time planning times to meet up with this person than you are with your own partner, that’s a huge issue.

It goes beyond friendship when you go to great lengths to plan something special for the two of you. You could say that’s something you should be doing more of with your partner.

# You rely on them for advice

It’s normal to ask your friends and family members for their advice sometimes but if you rely only upon a particular person for their view, that could indicate the connection has gone too far.

It’s a much better idea to talk to your partner about these things, instead of someone else.

# You’re not sure if you’re attracted to them or not

Emotional cheating doesn’t always mean that the physical side of things ever happens. That doesn’t mean you’re any less guilty just because there was no physical contact.

However, if you’re not sure if you feel an attraction to them or not, you’re already halfway there.

# They’re the first person you think of

When you wake up, who is the first person you think of? Other than the barista at the coffee house, of course. If it’s the person you’ve been getting a little too close to, you need to pull back quickly. Another person, beyond your partner, shouldn’t be on your mind this often.

# You feel a little guilty

That’s a huge red flag. If you feel guilty about being so close to this person, then you need to stop.

Your subconscious is telling you that it’s gone beyond friendship and in that case, you’re into emotional cheating territory already.

# You don’t want your partner and this person to mix

You go to great lengths to keep this person and your partner away from one another. Your partner might become suspicious about how much time you’re spending together and might want to meet them.

The very thought of that makes your blood run cold. That’s because deep down you know that it’s something more than friendship.