9 Thing Everyone Should Know Before Dating An Introvert

Being an introvert, I understand our crazy ways. Well, they’re not crazy to me, but I can understand how an extroverted person could see our musings as crazy or just plain weird. I promise that there is a reason for everything we do, you just might have to get used to it.

Many people think of themselves as introverts because they like movies, reading, and being indoors on crappy days. However, a true introvert has an entire personality that not many people even get to witness.

For those of you who aren’t familiar with what exactly an introvert is, I’ll explain it as simply as I can. Basically, from an outsider’s view, an introvert is someone who is shy, withdrawn, and even sometimes antisocial.

But what an introvert REALLY is is a person who is drained by being around a ton of people. They gain their energy when they’re alone, oftentimes pursuing creative projects. They can’t handle huge crowds for very long, yet they find complete happiness being alone.

# We NEED alone time

We don’t just like watching Netflix by ourselves because it means we’re ditching our responsibilities; we NEED to sit and watch Netflix by ourselves in order to be sane. Alone time is what we need to refuel ourselves.

We can’t spend day in and day out being around someone else. This might make it frustrating for you if you want to spend the day with us and we don’t want to be around you, even if we’re just chilling at home alone.

# No, we’re not upset

Just because we want to leave a bar or party early doesn’t mean we’re mad or upset. It just means that we’ve hit our quota for how much “people time” we can handle at once. We’re perfectly fine as long as we get away from the crowd in a reasonable amount of time.

# We’re not shy

People mistake introverted people for shy people all the time. The truth is, if you come up to us and strike up a conversation, we’ll be more than happy to talk to you without an issue. We actually love to talk to people.

The problem comes when too many people start to talk to us at the same time and we can’t balance them all at once. So instead of trying, we just sort of shut down and don’t speak, thus, making us look pretty shy.

# If you don’t hear from us for a while, we’re not mad, we’re recuperating

We don’t need constant communication with our significant others. In fact, we don’t even want it. So if we kind of go MIA for a few days with only a couple texts here and there, we’re probably not mad at you – we’re just refueling.

# You shouldn’t spring things on us last-minute

Hello anxiety! Introverts usually plan their days to be spent at home reading or watching a movie. We do like to go out every now and then, but we like to do so if we’ve planned for it.

So springing a night out on us last-minute will fill us with anxiety and will most likely result in a response of, “Oh sorry! I have plans already,” even if our plans only involved us, a bath, and a good book.

# We can’t spend more than a few hours with a crowd

And that’s pushing it. A concert is about all we can take, and then we need complete solitude for a good hour in order to replenish the lost energy. So don’t expect us to spend a day out in public and then a night on the town. We can’t do it!

# We’re the BEST listeners

Sometimes, we’re a bit too good. We will thoroughly listen to each and every thing that you have to say. But just be careful, because we can listen a little too well, so you can never lie to us.
We’re also very good at remembering details because we listen so well, so you can’t pull a fast one on an introvert. But when you have problems to spill, we’ll be there.

# We’ll be the most loyal to you

We’re not about going out and finding so many other people to talk to and be with and take home. No! That being said, we will be the most loyal to you. We don’t want to spend the energy going to look for someone else when we’ve already found what we want.

# You’ll never have to worry about us going out for too long

Send us out for a night with our friends and you’ll get us back within a few hours, tops. You’ll never have to worry about us going out and staying out excessively.