9 Ways To Rock Being To Be Yourself

People always say, “oh, you just have to be yourself.” But really, what kind of shitty advice is that? Just be yourself! They don’t tell you how to be yourself, they just say that you need to be yourself. Well, everyone knows that your best self is when you’re yourself.

I mean, this isn’t rocket science, people. But truly understanding how to be yourself is a completely different thing. Though you are yourself in some situations, it’s hard to be able to show who you are.

When I ask my friends how I am supposed to be myself, they usually don’t have an answer because, honestly, they don’t know. It’s a question that seems easy to answer but when you really examine it, it’s hard to come up with constructive tips. But listen, I got you. Who thought knowing how to be yourself could be this hard?

# What makes you not be yourself?

Do you know what makes you not be yourself? Is it groups of people? People you don’t know? You need to find the triggers which make you uncomfortable. Once you know what it is, then you can work on examining exactly what components make you uncomfortable.

You need to pick apart everything and really narrow down what it is exactly that makes you not be yourself. What’s blocking you?

# Do you really know who you are?

But really? If you cannot be yourself and you experience issues relaxing, it could just be that you actually don’t know who you are. This means you need to take time and try things out that you may not have thought were for you. Exploring yourself is the only way you get to know yourself. So, get out there and test the waters.

# Don’t focus on other’s opinions of you

This is what we all do, but it’s not worth it. This weekend, I went out in a new dress and for a couple minutes, I worried about what people thought of it. Then, it hit me—I feel good in it, I feel sexy, so why should I care? And that was the end of it.

If I stayed in the mind-set, I would have sat in the corner the entire night, scared to stand up. This mental torture we inflict on ourselves has nothing to do with other people. It’s all in our heads.

# You’re not doing this to impress others

You cannot try to impress others. It’s not going to work, but really, it’s not. People read through that like rice paper. You need to understand you’re not on this earth to impress people. I used to try to impress people but now, I don’t care.

And what actually started to happen was that people became impressed and insecure of my freedom. I unknowingly grabbed the power position based on my ability to be myself.

# Try to be in the moment

Many times, I’ve been stuck in my head, thinking about how I look, what I should say, or what I should do. But it doesn’t matter. I ended up losing what’s going on in the moment and missing out on that experience.

Instead, be completely involved in the moment. It helps you not only relax but become more self-aware of what’s going on around you. Are these people being negative towards you or is it all in your head?

# Be aware of these negative thoughts

You may not even notice the negative thoughts that run through your head. But, it’s time you paid attention and became more aware of what’s going on in your head. Be aware of how you think.

If you notice that you usually only think negative thoughts when you’re in a group of people, it’s time to switch those thoughts up. Now, this may not be so easy. If the people you’re with contribute to these negative thoughts, remove yourself from them in order to start bringing in positivity. [Read: How to stop having negative thoughts that drag you down

# Think about how it was when you were a child

When you were a child, you were free. Children are the essence of self-love and being natural. Go back into your memory and think about what you were like when you were a child because that’s who you are. If you’re no longer that person, you need to see what made you change.

# Follow your gut instinct

In some cases, you may not be able to act yourself for a good reason. Your intuition may tell you not to trust the situation or the person you’re talking to. If you don’t feel like you can open up to someone or feel the need to act a different way, that’s your body telling you this person isn’t good for you. Listen to your instinct.

# Accept you who are

You are who you are. You may not like things about yourself, but the fact of the matter is, that’s who you are. So, acknowledge what and who you are before anything.

Once you do this, any criticism from your friends and family will be obsolete. Why? Because you’re aware and you don’t care.