8 Ways To Feel Closer And Trust Your Partner

For those who struggle with trust issues, this message is for you. Many people find it incredibly difficult to open up to others, not just their partners. However, learning to be vulnerable in a relationship is crucial for maintaining a long and healthy connection.

It can be challenging to know how to be vulnerable, especially if you've been hurt in the past. Yet, it is essential to overcome these barriers. You won't find happiness in a relationship unless you're brave enough to open up, and your relationship won't reach its full potential without vulnerability.

Many people understand what it feels like to be vulnerable, but what does it actually mean? Being vulnerable means exposing yourself to the possibility of physical or emotional harm. In this context, we focus on the potential for emotional harm.

Being vulnerable requires taking emotional risks. It means sharing your true self with your partner, revealing who you are at your core without any filters. This openness exposes you to the possibility of rejection or judgment. It necessitates sharing your thoughts, feelings, and needs with complete authenticity.

When you are truly vulnerable, your partner sees your whole true self, and that can be frightening.

# It All Begins with You

Before you can be vulnerable in a relationship, you need to be open and honest with yourself. This means understanding and coming to terms with your own feelings so you can easily share them with your significant other.

Everyone processes emotions differently. Some write them down, others sit alone with their thoughts, and many prefer talking with a friend. Whatever your method, it's essential to be vulnerable with yourself first before you can be with your partner.

# They Deserve It

Being in a relationship implies that you care about your partner and believe they deserve your full self, not just a fraction. It’s easier to be vulnerable when you know they deserve your honesty and transparency.

Opening up can be hard if someone has wronged you in the past, but your current partner is there for you, so let them see who you truly are.

# Have a Discussion with Them

Vulnerability involves exposing every part of yourself, both good and bad. Ensure your partner is prepared for this and ask for their support. Communicating how difficult this process is for you can make it easier for both of you.

# Be Patient with Yourself and Your Partner

This journey won’t be easy and will take time. It’s okay to take a few steps back and feel like you can’t be vulnerable. Take a deep breath and start again—you can do this.

# Encourage Your Partner to Do the Same

As you open up and are honest with your partner, encourage them to do the same. It’s only fair that if you share every part of yourself, they attempt to do so too. This journey should be shared together.

# Have a Conversation with Yourself

Reflect on why you haven’t been vulnerable in the past. Understanding what has held you back will help you stay on track if you ever feel like putting up walls again.

# Practice with a Friend or Family Member First

Being vulnerable with your partner can be daunting due to the pressure on romantic relationships. If the fear of rejection or disapproval holds you back, start by being vulnerable with a trusted friend or family member. Practice makes perfect.

# Don’t Be Vague About Your Needs

Clearly communicate your needs to your partner. If you want them to just listen, tell them. If you want advice, let them know. Don’t start opening up without explaining what you need in return. It's unfair to have unspoken expectations. Your partner is doing their best to support you, but they can't meet your needs if they don't know what they are.