Tips To Bring Your Children Closer To You

It is very difficult to become a parent and to fulfill this responsibility. But it is not possible that it is not work. It is necessary to make good parents that they have remained with the children, due to which they are not able to face difficulty in telling their words to you. It is important that you always remain in love with them, which can bring your child even closer to you. In this case, whether you are young or old, you should treat them well. So let's come to such things tips.

Give your kid a kiss or a hug

Touching can be considered a communication tool. Spank your kid, and you make them feel pain. Hug or kiss them and you show how much you car. Make it habit to kiss or hug them when you leave the house and when you arrive. You can also do this before they go to sleep after reading their favorite story book.

Listen more than you talk

Many parents make communication a one-way street. Kids listen while they do the sermon for the whole day. This is not the right way to raise kids though. It makes them overly dependent and you on the other hand fail to listen to what they really need. Talk, but also make it a point to let your kids engage in the conversation. The more you listen, the more you will be able to understand what makes them tick.

See the story, not what it seems to be

It is so easy to be judgmental. Your kid is too whiny. He quarrels with the other kids in the neighborhood. He is never growing up. But if there is that one person who should be the first to see the story behind it all, it should be you. Dig deeper as to what caused them to be that way before judging your kid guilty.

Surprise them

Remember how it was when your spouse surprised you when he proposed? Or how your wife snubbed you the whole day, only to find out the night later that your friends were waiting at home to celebrate your birthday? Why not treat your kids the same way? Sneak in their favorite dessert in their lunch box. Fill their room with balloons before they wake up on their birthday.

Choose your words

The tongue is a very powerful tool. It can be a bridge for two people to have a relationship, or be used as a tool to make people want to stay away for good. Harsh words hone distrust, hate, separation and sadness. Its opposite, positive words, build love, peace, confidence, and a lasting relationship. ?You are stupid! Incompetent! You can’t even do this right!? If you were to be honest with yourself, how would you feel if you were the recipient of such kinds of words?

Never be too busy

One of the best ways to get closer with your kids is to give them some of your time. A plush toy or that expensive collectible car will never be able to replace your physical presence. Allot a “no work policy” during weekends. Turn off the computer and your phone. Reserve this time for your family. Go out and have lunch in a restaurant of play their favorite outdoor game together. Whatever you do, never let your work get in the way of spending time with your kids. They can grow up really fast and you can’t press their childhood on replay even if you wanted to.

Give them space

It is natural for you to worry when you see your kids wanting to have an “alone time” in their rooms. Kids and parent relationship should have its boundaries though especially when they are already in their teens. Are you holding some secrets that you would rather not share with anyone? All people have some things they want to hide, and so does your kid. It’s your right to feel worried. But stepping on the boundaries where you are not allowed permission to enter or make a comment is a sign of disrespect. Respect knows no age, and this should include younger people too.

Tell them the most three important words

Saying “I love you” validates your true feelings for your child. Barbie or any plastic Marvel superhero will not be able to open its mouth and say that for you. The funny thing is that there are only three words to this sentence. But many parents get the words stuck in their throat most of the time. If you weren’t told this as a kid, chances are you too are not telling this to your child. It gets better with practice. Try it today.

Learn to apologize

Next to “I love you,” “Sorry” is shorter, but is more difficult to say. But what do you usually do when your small boy or girl does something wrong? Isn’t it that you tell them to apologize and tell your other kid to accept the apology? Nobody wants to be in the wrong. But strength is not only found in assuming a bigger character where you are not allowed to make mistakes. Such expectations are not usually set by other people though, but by these people themselves. It’s okay to be wrong. The tricky part is being in the wrong and staying stuck there by not admitting your mistakes. If you did your kid something bad, apologize.

Dream their dreams

Yes, there are small girls who will tell you they’ll want to be a princess when they grow up. But they later change their minds to include more realistic goals in accordance to their capabilities. Once they do find that special thing they would like to do, support them. Did you know that doing this in itself is a sign of belief in their ability to make their dreams come true? Knowing that someone believes in you makes people feel a whole lot more special.