Take Care Of These Things If You Want To Keep Friendship With Your Ex

Some people want to remain friends among themselves even after the relationship breaks down. But it is not easy to maintain a friendship relationship with your former lover because love and marriage is a relationship in which people remain emotionally connected with each other, in such a situation it is very difficult to remain a friend after the relationship breaks down. However, some people do not consider it wrong, they think it is right to be friends.

But if you want to keep friendship with your EX after the breakup, then it is important to take care of some things.

# Have some time apart. Mourn the relationship. Real time apart and completely disengage. No phone, text, social media. This will give you time to heal. You should do this for 3 months minimum — some may need more time. Use this time to focus on your hobbies, work, and living happily.

If you're still unsure if you're ready to reach out as friends, ask yourself "How would I feel if I saw your ex with someone new?" If you still feel pain or become emotional, then you're not ready.

# Clarify your motives . Identify why you would like to maintain the friendship. Is it healthy for you? Closure, emotional support? Do you still feel attraction? Do they still feel attraction are you genuinely wanting to be friends or is it a power thing?

# Get in touch with your ex. Be open, tell them how you feel and how you want to remain friends. Be prepared for anything. They could welcome your contact or reject it. If they agree, the best way to go about connecting is to take the pressure off and spend time together as a part of a group.

# Don't fall back into old patterns. Keep up boundaries. Limit communication — try not to text them daily like you did when you were in a relationship. Don't put yourself in a position with alcohol, an evening date or go to places where you used to go when you were in love. Lay down the rules and be strong about them. Don't talk about your relationship. Look forward and be a true friend. No flirting or sex talk. Don't talk about the things that bother you like you would to a partner. This is a whole new dynamic. Most importantly, don't doubt the breakup and stick to your guns.

Be genuine about your friendship. Be prepared they may meet someone else. If during your friendship you notice that it ignites your feeling of love and attraction or vice versa, take a step back and time out until those feelings settle, then you can reassess. Be optimistic about your relationship and don't try to compare it to the past.

Do not expect -Do not expect your Ex to share all the things with you as before. If they want to share themselves with their mind, then the matter is different, do not force them to do this.

Don't think about getting into a relationship again. If you've made a move once, don't think about getting into a relationship again. Because if there has been trouble in your relationship before, then the same problem can arise again, so go ahead and be happy.