Here Are Few Tips To Get Over Your Ex Girlfriend

Studies carried out by neurologists at Mindlabs have proved that men are actually more sensitive than women and tend to hurt much more when compared to women after a breakup. Going through a breakup is a miserable feeling when you were in a committed relationship. You would have invested your time, love, energy and money to nurture the relationship, and watching it slip in between your fingers helplessly is one of the saddest feelings in the world.

She may have been your first love or your first serious relationship and seeing your ex-girlfriend move on with someone else immediately after the breakup is like pouring fuel on the fire. Here is the reality: it might not be as easy as you think. As the saying goes, time heals every wound, and it will certainly take time to get over your feelings for your ex-girlfriend. It might not be as easy as you might think to get over an ex-girlfriend but don't lose hope. Here are a few tips on dealing with your breakup and getting over that ex-girlfriend you still love.

# Follow the ‘No Contact’ rule to get over your ex-girlfriend fast

This is the golden rule by which love experts swear by. Cease all contact with your ex-girlfriend by deleting her from every social media account, such as Facebook, Instagram, Snapchat, etc. Stop stalking to your ex-girlfriend on social media, as incessantly keeping tabs on her social life might do more harm than good for you. Moreover, you might come across pictures of her enjoying her life and newfound freedom with another guy and we don't want to see you wallow in self-pity after seeing those pictures. Another golden rule to follow is that under no circumstances should you message her asking to come back to you. If you don’t trust yourself, delete her number from your contacts list or, better yet, entrust your phone to your best friend until you make up your mind. It might be a difficult task to do but, trust me, it will be alright in the end, this will also speed up your grieving process even though you might still love her.

# Acknowledge the pain and be patient to move on

Don't be hard on yourself and don't forget to acknowledge your pain, as by doing this you're accepting the fact that the relationship is over, and once you have decided to do it, don't ever dwell on it. Be patient and give time some time to mend your broken heart. Don’t give in to over thinking and kick any ‘what if’ questions out of your mind. Allow yourself to have a good cry and, trust me, you'll feel much better after pouring your eyes out but, most importantly, don't blame yourself, as this makes it easier to get over a breakup with your ex-girlfriend.

# Let go of your ex-girlfriend even if you still love her

As the saying goes, it's no use crying over spilt milk, and the same goes for your breakup, too. It's no use wallowing in pain and self-pity over things that are beyond your control. Acknowledge the fact that your ex-girlfriend has moved on without you and is not going to come back. Pick up all the pieces of your life and focus on improving yourself, as this time is very crucial for your overall emotional development. Just keep yourself busy so that you don't think about her in order to get over her fast!

# Have a good cry to move on fast

You might project yourself as a strong person but it is okay to show that you're weak every once in a while. Have a good cry and wash out your heart. If you keep all your feelings inside, it will tear you apart eventually. For instance, consider a balloon: if you keep on blowing air into it, the balloon expands and it will ultimately burst after reaching its threshold. The same applies to your heart: if you keep on bottling up your feelings without expressing them, you will have a nervous breakdown. Denying your emotions or not accepting the situation will not prove beneficial while also making you feel worse. Don't control your emotions and just accept the fact that you've been hurt, so cry your eyes out. Sometimes, strong men feel weak but they can have a good cry, get up again and face a new day.

# Be selfish and focus on yourself to get over your ex-girlfriend

Realize that your world doesn't revolve around your ex-girlfriend. It's high time you stop focusing on her, turn the limelight towards you and give yourself a fresh start since this is the best time for you to focus on yourself. Pick any new hobbies that you wanted to try for a long time but didn't have the time to do so or just go out, socialize and have fun with your friends. Ask your office crush out for lunch or indulge yourself in adventure sports to feel the adrenaline coursing through your blood, feel good about yourself and get over your ex. Show all the good things your ex-girlfriend is missing out on, by doing this you can get over your her in no time.

# Write a journal to move on efficiently

Maintain a journal and write down your feelings about getting over your ex-girlfriend. Cope up with what you feel about her by introspecting about them and reflecting on your state of mind. Jot down how you felt when you were in the relationship with her and how you felt in the aftermath of your breakup. Keep track of your feelings, as it will provide you an insight about yourself. The common reasons for a breakup involve lack of communication, not trusting your partner, lack of freedom and falling out of love.

# Channel your energy into exercise

Getting over a breakup might make you feel stressed or push you towards an emotional burnout, so a good way to channel your emotions and break the depression cycle you're in is by exercising or indulging in any physical activities. Researchers have proved that when you exercise a hormone called ‘endorphin’, also known as ‘the feel-good hormone’, is released by the brain. These 'endorphins' trigger a positive feeling in the body, similar to that of morphine. Exercise helps in boosting your mood and confidence so that you feel accomplished. Pick up intensive activities such as kickboxing, weight lifting, hiking or cycling both to boost your metabolism up and at the same time keep your mind off of your ex-girlfriend.

# Enjoy your newfound freedom and catch up with your friends

Enjoy your newfound ‘single’ status by catching up with your friends whom you might have ignored during your relationship. Hang out with them, catch up on all the football or baseball matches that you might have missed, go out on a road trip, complain about your ex-girlfriend and enjoy flirting with that cute girl by the bar. Be careful while indulging in fun and frolic. Don't do things that might get you in trouble or things that later you might make regret doing.

# List the things you hate about your ex-girlfriend

This might seem like a crazy thing to do but, trust me, pointing out her flaws is a good way to get over your ex-girlfriend. When you're blind in love, you tend to worship your lover by ignoring their flaws and shortcomings. Your ex-girlfriend might have been a control freak or jealous of your friends, prevented you from going out with your friends or wrecked your bank account by buying unnecessary things. By making a list of all her negative traits, you might see that your ex-girlfriend was not perfect to start with and you might feel much better after the breakup.