5 Tips To Help You Talk To Shy Guy

Girls typically find something really enigmatic about a shy, quiet guy. Their lack of words gives them an air of mystery. However, the guys who are shy and quite are typically introverts and may feel awkward in social situations. It is also likely that they may be insecure or unsure of their own ability to carry on an intelligent conversation. Either way, if you are drawn to an introvert, it can be a rather long pursuit and you should be up for the challenge. Your goal is to make him as comfortable as possible if you want to have an actual conversation.

Here are a couple of tips which can help you make it click with a shy guy:

* Maintain a delicate balance

If you are pursuing a shy guy, you will probably have to carry the burden of most of the conversation, at least at first. He's going to want to feel you out and figure out if you're someone he wants to have a conversation with or not. While you don't want to barrage him with questions, you do want to ask a variety of open-ended questions - ones that he can't simply respond to with a "yes" or "no."

* Don’t fear silence

Shy guys may be more introspective and therefore more prone to moments of silent reflection. While this may feel like an awkward silence to you, for him it may be comforting. If his body language indicates that he is at ease, don't rush to fill the silence.

* Think of a topic beforehand

Men who are shy and quiet generally don't care for small talk, so a conversation about nothing, in particular, will probably not go well. Try talking about mutual interests or non-controversial current events. If you can capture his interest and manage to make him feel comfortable, there is a chance he'll start navigating the direction of the conversation. Starting with something like "You and I are the only two people in here not staring at our phones. When was the last time you had a real conversation with a stranger?" can set a common ground which he might be able to relate with and feel comfortable.

* Think beyond just the opening conversation

Even if you have a stellar intro to your conversation, you want to have some topics ready in case the conversation stalls. Make sure you follow the flow of the conversation while moving from one topic to the other. Check his verbal and non-verbal cues - no conversation can go on forever, so know when it's time to conclude. These are a couple of clear indications - He keeps glancing at or facing his body, toward the exit. Or, he starts giving monosyllabic responses like, "Yeah," "Huh," or, "Nope." You'll know these indicate closure if he seemed engaged in the conversation earlier but switched to these types of responses. Or, his body language, which was fairly open earlier, becomes closed off. Look for crossed arms, a hand over his mouth, or placing objects in between you two.

* Follow-on with another conversation

At the conclusion of the conversation, tell him you enjoyed talking to him and ask if you could talk again sometime soon. Agree to meet up or exchange contact information. Or, if you're feeling particularly bold, at the end of the conversation slip him your contact info and tell him, "This is how to get ahold of me. I look forward to hearing from you soon."