7 Signs He Feels Guilty For Hurting You

Experiencing hurt in a relationship is never easy. Whether it's deceit, betrayal, or any form of letdown, being wounded by someone you care about cuts deep. Yet, identifying signs that he feels remorseful for causing that pain can be crucial in gauging the sincerity of his actions.

Heartbreak is heartbreak, regardless of the specifics. But deciphering whether he's genuinely sorry can offer insight into his feelings post the hurtful event. His actions often speak volumes about his remorse, as someone truly feeling guilty might not verbalize an apology. Instead, they tend to focus on rebuilding trust and proving their sincerity.

Notice the subtle shifts in behavior - perhaps he's unusually attentive or goes to great lengths to ensure your happiness. It's the unspoken gestures that often reflect underlying guilt. He may tip-toe around certain topics or avoid discussions about the incident, hoping it fades from memory.

Understanding these signs can shed light on his emotions and intentions after hurting you. Here's a closer look at some unmistakable signs that indicate his guilt for causing you pain.

# He buys you gifts

A telltale sign a guy is feeling guilty for something he knows will hurt you is buying you gifts. Yes, he may just be a nice guy, but if this is out of the ordinary and you have been getting a weird vibe, don’t overlook it. If he isn’t the type of guy who buys you gifts, then this is an obvious one.

Of course, don’t go overboard with accusations just because he bought you a gift. This sign needs to be matched with other signs to confirm that he really is guilty about something.

If he’s being such a hopeless romantic and he’s never been like that throughout the course of your relationship, it’s time to start questioning his motives.

# He starts fights because he feels like he deserves to be yelled at

This is sort of a psychological sign, but a sign nonetheless. He purposely starts fights because he feels he deserves it for what he did to you. Here’s the thing, men really don’t start fights *who in their sane mind would want a fight?*

So if you see him start fights even about the little things, especially those that never bothered him, this can be a sign of guilt. He may want to feel like he is being punished so that the guilt isn’t so strong.

If he gets away with what he’s doing, his conscience will torture him unless he is punished for it.

# He may act like the victim in every situation

He acts as if everything he does is for you, and when something doesn’t work out he blames everyone else. He acts like his downfalls are due to his selflessness. This is a classic manipulative move you often see in gaslighting to make you feel sorry for him or to reverse the situation.

He may act as the “nice guy.” He may even refer to himself as such. But if he can’t admit he is wrong or that he made a selfish mistake, he may be feeling guilty. This is the type of guy that says I didn’t cheat because she kissed me.

# He makes promises

The empty promise is something women since the beginning of time have dealt with. He may promise you the world when he is in deep with his guilt. Words are very easy to say by someone who has intentionally betrayed your trust, so they make up for it through false reassurances and promises. Just like his actions, his words aren’t something you should hold on to.

This is one of the classic signs he feels guilty for hurting you. He may promise to take you on a vacation, go to see your favorite play, or even make future plans that he has no intention of keeping, so his guilt can be pushed down for the time being.

# His confidence is failing

If the situation was reversed, wouldn’t you feel guilty for betraying the one person you love and hurting them? A guy who is lying and hurting the girl he is with does not have confidence. He might even come across as full of himself, but deep down he is a scared little boy.

Don’t just watch out for his insecurities showing, but watch out for over-the-top arrogance. He might seem like the most confident man, but it’s the exact opposite.

# He says he doesn’t deserve you

Ahhh yes, the most classic line and sign ever! The line “I don’t deserve you” never gets old. Now, why would a cheater say something like this? Because he feels guilty.

He knows what he is doing is wrong, so instead of doing the right thing, he simply says something like this to make you feel like he adores you rather than that he is secretly hurting you.

The only reason he would say he doesn’t deserve you rather than doing the action to actually deserve you is that he already hurt you, and it’s too late for redemption.

# He avoids the topic in question

Guilt is a strong emotion, and facing it head on is a scary thing. So if you question him about that girl from work, where he was the other night, or why there is money missing from your joint account, he will change the subject as fast as possible.Especially if he sucks at lying or he’s using his deflecting skills in action, then he might be guilty. It’s one of the common signs he feels guilty for hurting you.