10 Signs To Find Out Of Your Ex Is Ruining Your Present Romance And Any Chance Of A Happier Life

It’s often said that one of the easiest ways to move on from a past relationship is to start a new one. It’s quick, simple, and can help you avoid heartbreak almost entirely. After all, the pain of lost love can be replaced by the excitement of new love.

But what happens when you find new love, yet still find yourself fixated on your old relationship? It’s a situation many of us might face. You may start dating someone new, but deep down, you might secretly hope to reunite with your ex.

Have you ever been in that position? You might be with someone new, but you can’t truly love them unless you let go of the idealized version of your past relationship. Your joyful moments won’t feel as fulfilling, and any minor arguments with your current partner might make you yearn for your ex even more, despite knowing a reconciliation is unlikely.

Remember, your breakup happened for a reason. The best you can do is move forward. Clinging to fantasies about your ex will only bring misery and prevent you from appreciating a potentially better relationship with your new partner.

# Comparisons

Do you often compare every little detail of your new relationship with your past one? Understand that no two relationships are identical. Instead of weighing one against the other, focus on enjoying the present. In love, it’s not about pros and cons, but about instincts and feelings.

# Bumping into Your Ex

Do you fantasize about running into your ex, imagining how wonderful it would be to embrace them? If you dream of happy conversations or lingering touches, you’re still in love with your ex, even if you think otherwise.

# Talking About Your Ex

How frequently do you talk about your ex with your partner, friends, or even yourself? Discussing exes keeps the memories alive. It’s one thing if someone else brings up your ex, but if you’re always steering conversations in that direction, you haven’t moved on yet. Even complaining about your ex to your new partner is a way of staying connected to those memories.

# Dreaming of Your Ex

Do you find yourself daydreaming about scenarios where you and your ex meet and spend time together, at work, on vacation, or elsewhere? If you fantasize about rekindling love with your ex, it’s a sign you need to work on moving on.

# Dating with a Vendetta

Are you dating someone new just to prove to your ex that you can find someone equally or more attractive? While it might feel satisfying initially, you’ll realize you still have feelings for your ex once that satisfaction fades.

# Online Research

Do you occasionally search for your ex online? Checking up once a year is normal, and once a month is borderline, but if you’re googling them weekly, you need to distract yourself. If you’re stalking their social media every night, you’re deeply obsessed and won’t move on until you address this.

# News of Your Ex

Do you get excited about any news regarding your ex, like their new job or relationship? This indicates you’re still obsessed, even if you think you’ve moved on. Continuing this behavior can lead to unhealthy obsession.

# Wanting an Affair

If you’ve considered having an affair with your ex or tried to convince them to have one, it’s a clear sign you haven’t moved on. Fantasizing about it indicates you’re willing to jeopardize your current relationship for a second chance with your ex.

# Fantasizing About Your Ex

Do you secretly fantasize about your ex while being intimate with your current partner? Imagining your ex in such moments only pulls you further away from your current relationship.

# Reluctance to Move On

Many lovers fall into this trap. Even after the relationship ends, they don’t truly want to move on. They date others, but deep down, they keep hoping their ex will return. If you’re using your new partner to fill a void, you’ll never experience a truly fulfilling and blissful relationship.