Some Easy Ways To Show Etiquettes

Etiquette is not just about which fork to use. It’s showing respect for yourself and everyone else in your little corner of the planet. In a world where rudeness often reigns, why not stand out for being polite and thoughtful? You don’t even have to go to charm school just follow the rules below :

Rules of Etiquette

Basic Etiquette

Be yourself – and allow others to treat you with respect
Let this one sink in, ladies. Who you are is perfectly acceptable, and, you are worthyof being treated courteously. Working out the rough edges can be a lifelong process, and now is a really good time to start!

Say “Thank You”

When someone gives you a compliment or does something nice, the best response is a simple “Thank you.” Please also remember, “Please,” “Excuse me,” and “You’re welcome,” which are other marks of good manners.

Give Genuine Compliments

A fundamental rule of good manners is to give. When you meet someone, you can always think of a genuine compliment to give, along with your attention and interest. A “Hello” or “How are you?” is most often not enough. Be generous with sincere words of praise, warm greetings, sympathy, or whatever is appropriate to the occasion.

Don’t be Boastful, Arrogant or Loud

When in polite company, always exercise self-control and good taste. Your voice, your behaviour and even your clothing should reflect understated elegance. Please do not brag about accomplishments; a well-mannered person has no need for self-advertisement. Let your deeds speak for themselves.

Listen Before Speaking

Respect for others is a requirement of good manners. Listening to others is a way to show respect. Be genuinely interested in others; learn their names, and encourage them to talk about themselves. Never interrupt. Look them in the eye, and listen carefully.

Speak with Kindness and Caution

Before speaking to others, consider what effect your words will have. Also remember the language of the body (your posture and your mannerisms) is actually more important than the language of words.

Do Not Criticize or Complain

Negativity in any form is to be avoided. Ignore gossip; don’t participate. If you disagree with others, do so respectfully (agree to disagree). Since we all need to vent, reserve your ‘bitch’ sessions to your one or two closest friends/family members….period!

Be Punctual

Appreciate the value of time, yours and others. If you make an appointment, arrive on time. If you must be late, call first. Never arrive early for a social engagement (this is fine in a business setting). Lingering good-byes merely cause frustration and can ruin an otherwise good time. A quick, simple exit at the proper time is usually appreciated.

Do Not Embarrass Others

Demeaning anyone with rude jokes or an unwelcome nickname is disrespectful. In conversation, never ask embarrassing questions about relationships, or asking how much was paid for something (my Grandmother said that discussing money is ‘vulgar!! Funny word, AND she was right….

Act and Look Your Best

Take time and care in how you present yourself – both in appearance and in manners.

Etiquette for Gentlemen

In Social Etiquette, I have a secret for you – Women actually WANT to be treated like ladies, even if they aren’t acting like one at the moment. In all things, there are exceptions to the rule. 97% of women will absolutely love being treated in a courteous manner and, while being well-mannered, you may run across one of the 3% of snarlies who will chastise you for being polite. Oh well……..

Business etiquette is a different matter as the social order here is based on power. In this arena, men treat women as their equals, not in a chivalrous manner. Business etiquette is covered in a separate section in next article.