13 Tips To Help You Make The First Move On A Guy

Ladies, we’re well into the 2020s! Don’t be afraid to make the first move on the guy you like.

Yes, men can be unpredictable. They might show clear signs of interest, but when it comes to asking you out or getting your number, nothing happens. But you’re a girlboss who won’t sit around waiting for a guy to make the first move. You’ll show them how it’s done.

Many people have anxiety, and just like women, men can be shy and nervous too. However, society often expects them to initiate.

They have to approach the woman, ask her out, face rejection, and come up with creative date ideas. This doesn’t necessarily make it easier for women, especially those who dislike being in a passive role.

Let’s start changing that by taking the initiative with the guy you like. Here are 13 tips to help you succeed.

# Look for signs of interest

Before making your move, watch for signs that he’s interested. Notice if he laughs at your jokes, makes eye contact, or subtly touches you. When a guy likes you, you'll often sense it, even if he's trying to hide it. Men are usually easier to read than women.

# Read his body language

A person's body language often reveals their feelings. While it's not always definitive, people tend to mirror those they're interested in. If he leans in and mimics your movements, he might be into you. You generally don't lean into people you want to keep at a distance.

# Be casual

He might really like you but is held back by anxiety or nerves. To ease the pressure he's putting on himself, keep things relaxed and casual. Don’t come on too strong. The less pressure he feels, the better.

# Check if he’s single

It's not uncommon to flirt with a guy only to discover he has a girlfriend later. Whether he was just being nice or genuinely flirting back, avoid getting involved with someone who's taken. It’s a risky game with no winners.

# Don’t show jealousy

If another girl approaches him and starts chatting, don't show jealousy. It's normal to feel jealous, but remember he doesn't owe you loyalty since you two aren't together. Acting possessive will only make him think you’re insecure. Besides, she could be a co-worker or friend, and being rude won’t make him like you more.

# Handle rejection gracefully

Prepare yourself for possible rejection. It's normal and happens to everyone, just like not getting every job you apply for. If the guy you like finds someone else or is in a relationship, move on.

# Show your interest

To make a move, you need to show that you like him. If he’s giving you flirtatious signals, reciprocate. Touch his arm, flirt, and make eye contact. Men aren’t mind-readers. However, be careful not to come across as desperate.

# Don't point out that you’re making the first move

If he’s nervous or shy, and you’re making the first move, great! But don’t rub it in his face. It’s not a confidence booster. Plus, who cares who makes the first move? This isn't a competition.

# Go solo

Approach him on your own. If he’s with a friend, his friend will likely get the hint and make themselves scarce. Using a wingman or wingwoman can seem intimidating, especially if he’s shy.

# Avoid groups

Men rarely approach groups of women to hit on one person, knowing it’s generally a bad idea. Similarly, wait until he’s alone so he can decide for himself without group dynamics influencing the situation.

# Have a movie night

If you're already friends or have hung out without anything happening, invite him over for a movie night. The implication is clear: it’s just the two of you, on a couch, under a blanket. He'll get the hint.

# Have a drink together

Going out for a drink can help calm nerves. A glass of wine or champagne can lighten the mood and reduce overthinking. Just be careful not to overdo it.

# Choose a romantic setting

Whether he’s picking you up or you’re driving, suggest a romantic spot, like somewhere with a sunset or a quiet place where you can be alone. Singing in the car and talking without distractions can help you connect better.