Valentines Special- 5 Tips To Gear Up Your Romantic Life

Wouldn’t it be wonderful to sit down with a group of happily married couples, couples who were all celebrating significant wedding anniversaries and have an opportunity to ask them for love advice? To be able to glean advice from people who can reflect on years of successful happy marriages? Guess what? We’ve done it for you! Here are some of the highlights from that conversation; words of wisdom that you can reflect upon, straight from the life experiences of the “wise elders.” Get ready to learn from experience!

* You must first love yourself before you can love others. Developing a firm sense of your own inherent worthiness is necessary in order to attract healthy, happy people into your life.

* You are responsible for your own happiness. Making your partner be your only source of happiness is a recipe for disaster.

* Be realistic about your relationship expectations. Real love does not look like a Hollywood movie.

* Marry someone you like. Everyone in the group stressed the importance of both liking and loving the person you marry: “The sex will come and go during your marriage. You’ll have a lot of it at the beginning. Then kids, and work, and age…these all will affect your sex life. But if you have a strong friendship, you’ll get through those dry spells.” If your relationship is based uniquely on sexual attraction, you’ll soon get bored.

* Different perspectives, no one magical formula for marital bliss, varied opinions about what works and what does not. Pick and choose from what our experts have shared, and reflect on what you feel will lead to a long and happy marriage for you.